"Married sex was not only legitimate in the Puritan view; it was meant to be exuberant. Gouge [a Puritan pastor] said that married couples should engage in sex 'with good will and delight, willingly, readily, and cheerfully.' An anonymous Puritan claimed that when two are made one by marriage they 'may joyfully give due benevolence one to another; as two musical instruments rightly fitted do make a most pleasant and sweet harmony in a well tuned consort'" (Ryken, Worldly Saints, p. 44).
The Puritans used language for married sex that is outdated, such as matrimonial duty, cohabitation, act of matrimony, but (especially, says Ryken) due benevolence. Don't you just love that expression, due benevolence? Try wooing your wives, men, with this sort of languange. "For date night this week, my Love, why don't we do a nice dinner, enjoy a litte fruit of the vine, share some conversation, and then delight in due benevolence." A surefire way to stir her affections for you, despite your balding and the extra ten pounds you gained last winter and never shed.
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